Shelby Milford

About Shelby Milford

As the effects of alienation intensified, so did my stress. I was inundated with feelings of helplessness, anger, & terror. In effort to manage, I grasped for anything that would alleviate the pain.
That “anything” would most often be found inside a wine bottle. It began by pouring a glass when I put my sweet babe down at night. Over time, that glass turned into a bottle. The sense of urgency I felt while my daughter was gone seemed unbearable. The nights she went to her dad’s, I spent DT @ the bars. ANYTHING to make the pit in my belly disappear.

Here’s how it went:

• the alienation strategies made me feel helpless, fearful and overwhelmed. I drank to quell the anxiety.

• he used my coping mechanism as a weapon.

• I strengthened his case by continuing to drink.

It became a harmful cycle of self-defeat.

Stubborn in my belief that he needed to change, I lost sight of my true goal — to protect my daughter.

After roughly $250k in court, a years long nightmare of back-to-back lawsuits, bullying, harassment, denigration, being followed, along with self-induced calamities, I began to take the steps to get myself right. I spent nearly 3 years, self-sequestered, living out on a lake, doing the daily work needed to heal from the trauma. I wanted to help other parents like me, but I couldn’t find a program that was in alignment with. So, I took some psychology classes, went to two different coaching schools, and created my own curriculum.

Today, I live proud of the mother and woman I am. My purpose is to help other alienated parents to overcome and feel the same.